You Were Never a Certified Loser

There’s no harm in admitting you’re different from other people. Yes, some dudes have a lot of success when it comes to getting the women of their choosing or ladies being born with a high level of attractiveness. What remains are those who think they’re a loser for not being born with or living up to “societal standards.”

I am an average-looking dude who loves Dragon Ball Z, comic books, writing, fitness, books (based upon fiction, science fiction, mystery, fantasy, action, horror, drama, business, and non-fiction), nature, dancing (Footloose style), films, Mariah Carey’s music, and humor that doesn’t make much sense. As a child, I considered myself a mutant based on the X-Men comics since I couldn’t fit in at school. People thought me strange and quiet, but I can say that I had very little knowledge of the world and lacked communication skills due to a speech impediment.

The curse of feeling like a “loser” is you begin to set yourself up for a long-term career of failures. When you aren’t accepted by others or make mistakes while being judged harshly, you destroy your self-confidence. From experience, I’ve seen the damage of letting others define who you are. Once you let their voices inside your dome, there’s no simple way of eliminating the infestation of self-loathing.

However, I’ve learned through time and experience things aren’t the way they seem. This reality of ours has a bunch of nonsense. Baseless information on how specific people were born losers which isn’t the case. Every single one of us was never meant to be like anyone else. None of us can’t be Hugh Jackman, Robin Williams, Natalie Portman, or Sarah Silverman. We are who we choose to be in our own freaking right. For good or worse.

On the Bright Side

To shed some light, I discovered I never was a loser since I’ve been single my entire life. Last year around mid-August, I met this beautiful woman at a BBQ party. She came up to me and started chatting with me to my surprise. Long story short, I asked her out on a date and within that week we kissed. Mind you, I’ve never kissed anyone before, and coming from a nerd like me I succeeded in having one of the best dates of my life.

Unfortunately, things didn’t move forward after our second date but what remains true is I took a chance to challenge my loser mentality. I’ve lived my entire life feeling like a loser because of what people on social media were doing with their lives and being compared to other successful individuals.

I hope whoever is reading this is that you were never a loser. It is hard to get out of that mindset once it’s been living within your mind rent-free, however, I can reassure you life becomes better when you start to believe in yourself. It’s not a simple task to do. The progress is slow but worth it once you understand your life’s mission based on your revelation of who you are meant to be. Seek Jesus’s help through prayer my friends. Cheers!